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Bitter one I know what you mean. I am a girl, I have a boyfriend and he’s so hot and cold. But if he was over sensitive I wouldn’t Luke it but it doesn’t mean I like bad boys. He’s far from bad, but it bothers me how hot and cold guys can be. Like one minute he”ll tell me I’m ” amazing” and such and then sometimes he seems bored with me and just sais he loves me ( we love each other but were not sure if were IN love yet) but sometimes it seems like he sais it because he feels obligated. Am I paranoid? Why am I so scared that if I tell him how I. Feel he’ll think I’m a pathetic, needy girl which I’m not. So you see even the nice guys make us cry and be a mess.

JC Says:
May 12th, 2010 at 11:08 pm
I use to date jerks all of the time. Here are a couple of the reasons that I did.

1. I didn’t feel that I deserved any better. I was sure that any really good guy would eventually see the real me and hate me as much as I hated myself.

2. Growing up I learned that no one was nice to you unless they expected something from you. It was easy to figure out what jerks wanted. But I could never figure out what the nice guys wanted. I thought it must be something really big. Dating a nice guy made me feel really anxious because I was always waiting for them to demand something really huge from me. I was always waiting for them to drop a bombshell on me.

3. Jerks will promise you the world because they never plan on keeping any of their promises. Growing up in an unhappy environment made me desperate to have the kind of happiness that they promised. I was an honest person and believed others were too. I paid more attention to men’s words than their actions.

Basically, it comes down to the fact that dating jerks made me feel more comfortable because they are the kind of men that I grew up with and I knew what to expect from them. Dating nice guys made me feel very uncomfortable because I was always waiting for them to demand something of me or leave me for someone better.