Mike Says:
July 26th, 2011 at 7:29 pm
During these times bankruptcy can happen. The whole picture has to be looked at. Are the financially undisciplined and immature or were they trying to accomplish something in life and it fell through?
I mostly agree with Moxie on this one. Phone calls beforehand have never been a favorite, and indeed are often awkward experiences. I’m pretty good with e-mail writing, and maybe 30% of the time, I’ll spend more time exchanging e-mails to get a better picture of someone before asking her out. However, the majority of time, after two or three e-mails back and forth, I’m either ready to meet or ready to move on.
The thing about longer, drawn out “pre-meet” conversations is that they tend to ramp up the level of fantasy and story you have about the other person. You e-mail each other for two or three weeks, have a phone call or two, chat online, etc. – and suddenly you think you really know this person. Which you mostly don’t. Nor do they really know you. But because of the extra narratives you’ve received, plus the time to add your own, you arrive at the date with a big story that isn’t going to match reality.