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I think for very inward-focused pple (I’d guess most readers here are more inward-looking than outward-looking, to varying degrees), when we’re happy with ourselves, life is peachy and we don’t feel empty if we’re alone. But if we encounter problems/setbacks in areas where our identity and self-esteem does lie, we don’t derive much comfort from rships and the external validation that can be derived from them. The problem has to be resolved for us to be happy again. That’s fine if it’s a problem that can be quickly solved, but not all are.

I agree there are women trying to play “multiple incongruent roles simultaneously”, but thankfully I don’t know many such chameleons. :)

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Alana says:
April 2, 2015 at 8:33 am
Typo, “with much of their identity placed in their* attributes”. =)

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Jeremy says:
April 2, 2015 at 9:30 am
@Richard
I get what you are saying, but I’m not positive the reverse is true. Of course it is incumbent upon any individual to get to know the person they are dating – and themselves. Of course no heuristic (such as MBTI) is going to be a substitute for that in any way. I do not mean to imply that if you know a person’s “type” you will necessarily know much about them, or that it somehow enables you to take shortcuts to getting to know them. And, yes, I see your point about pre-selection.

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