Integrity and Character: Does your date think you have it?
Cheap Date Ideas
He’s WAY more into me than I am into him…
When Do You Change Your Relationship Status?
Have We Lost Our Storytelling Tradition?
Your Attitude Is Keeping You Single
Does Economic Downturn Signal Marriage Downturn?
Online Dating: Eharmony Style
Stop Trying To Change Me!
How To Know When Someone Is “Rebounding”
Looking for a True Partner
Why Didn’t He Call?
Friends Are Awesome!
And as far as if acting this way you may think that it may deter people from approaching you, or even if the Ex badmouths you “she is a carzy bitch” blah blah blah….I think your actions thru your friends and kindness will shine thru over any negative adversity. And therefore….not a problem.
This was written after drinking an americano with a shot additional. But All said is what I think.
Oh no, I definitely said some uncool things. They were all true and justified, but they were also the kind of things that made me think less of myself for having said them. If he went off and laughed about my apology, well then, that says more about his character than anything else and doesn’t really matter to me. It mattered to me to make it right and I’m really glad I did.
If he thinks he “won,” well, perhaps he did but I gained wisdom and some humility in the process and I think its made me a better person in the long run… so I kind of feel like I “won” as well.
Since then, breakups (in my world)have been a kinder, easier and less angst-filled thing. Not any less sad or poignant, but nothing has been said leading to later regret and I am incredibly grateful for that.
As a person who fits in a solid 2/1 split, I’m happy to say most of my breaks have been in the nicest of tones. Unfortunately, frustration can get the better of us, and if I’m showing my better side I make sure any good byes are done without malice or anger. I wish I could always show my better side; its the times I don’t that I regret. Not because they weren’t accurate or provoked, but because its not how I would want to be treated or remembered. I agree with you Kelli, you regret it because of what it says about you.. not the other person. Good article.
I had a couple run-ins lately that may serve as a warning to guys out there. One guy introduced himself at the dog park, and while he creeped me out, I didn’t give him a fake first name. He explained he’d been ‘following me around the trail’ for a year trying to work up the nerve to talk to me. He never asked for my contact info (which I’d have declined). I was polite when we ran into each other on the trail and around town, and we ran into each other 6-7 times without him asking for my number.
Cheap Date Ideas
He’s WAY more into me than I am into him…
When Do You Change Your Relationship Status?
Have We Lost Our Storytelling Tradition?
Your Attitude Is Keeping You Single
Does Economic Downturn Signal Marriage Downturn?
Online Dating: Eharmony Style
Stop Trying To Change Me!
How To Know When Someone Is “Rebounding”
Looking for a True Partner
Why Didn’t He Call?
Friends Are Awesome!
And as far as if acting this way you may think that it may deter people from approaching you, or even if the Ex badmouths you “she is a carzy bitch” blah blah blah….I think your actions thru your friends and kindness will shine thru over any negative adversity. And therefore….not a problem.
This was written after drinking an americano with a shot additional. But All said is what I think.
Oh no, I definitely said some uncool things. They were all true and justified, but they were also the kind of things that made me think less of myself for having said them. If he went off and laughed about my apology, well then, that says more about his character than anything else and doesn’t really matter to me. It mattered to me to make it right and I’m really glad I did.
If he thinks he “won,” well, perhaps he did but I gained wisdom and some humility in the process and I think its made me a better person in the long run… so I kind of feel like I “won” as well.
Since then, breakups (in my world)have been a kinder, easier and less angst-filled thing. Not any less sad or poignant, but nothing has been said leading to later regret and I am incredibly grateful for that.
As a person who fits in a solid 2/1 split, I’m happy to say most of my breaks have been in the nicest of tones. Unfortunately, frustration can get the better of us, and if I’m showing my better side I make sure any good byes are done without malice or anger. I wish I could always show my better side; its the times I don’t that I regret. Not because they weren’t accurate or provoked, but because its not how I would want to be treated or remembered. I agree with you Kelli, you regret it because of what it says about you.. not the other person. Good article.
I had a couple run-ins lately that may serve as a warning to guys out there. One guy introduced himself at the dog park, and while he creeped me out, I didn’t give him a fake first name. He explained he’d been ‘following me around the trail’ for a year trying to work up the nerve to talk to me. He never asked for my contact info (which I’d have declined). I was polite when we ran into each other on the trail and around town, and we ran into each other 6-7 times without him asking for my number.