Don’t Look Down
Dating (My Ex-Husband) After Divorce
Post-divorce life is turning out to be very interesting
To Avoid a Broken Heart, Do Not Love
My Last Days as Someone’s Wife
On Taking the Easy Way Out
When Your Soon-to-Be Ex Is Your Soul Mate
Scorched Earth
First Rule of a Positive Divorce
5 Things That Changed My Divorce
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. And Other Lies
The Last Divorce Writer Rides Again
May Divorce Be With You
Next Time You See Me, I’ll Be Laughing at Divorce
Even Though We're Divorcing, I Want You to Be Happy (And Other B.S. Tales)
Yup. :) Tyler likes to tell the story, and it gels with my own experience, that especially in the initial few years of learning this stuff, if people in your social circle don't see you for a couple months, when they run into you again they're often like "wow, you're so different" or "you've changed so much" and they mean it as a compliment.
Note, again, that you haven't grown 2 feet taller. Physically you're the same dude you were when you felt like you were the tag-along guy of the group and 5s were sneering at you on the dance floor…all you've done since then is stopped holding back your personality and embraced expressing yourself, and consciously learned how to express your personality in an optimal way. And you will improve a thousand times more than you have so far…you can't even imagine what you'll be like in a few years.
A few YEARS. I mean, ya, all the nights out where not much happens or you get shot down suck, but man, imagine, if you spend a couple years of your life doing this (and it's not even torture, a lot of the time it's just fun and having little adventures and gaining stories and experiences), you could spend the entire rest of your life on a path that a couple years ago you probably thought was just for "other guys". It's like working out. Sure you aren't going to lose 50lbs and gain a bunch of muscles from a week of working out…but if you plug away at the gym, hitting it consistently and making little tiny improvements…over a couple of years you can transform your body into something you never imagined possible as a fatty-fat.
This is just working your social muscles. :) I literally can't even relate to my old self, like the mindsets and outlooks I had and the vision I had for my life and future and potential and all that…it's like talking about some other person entirely. I'm actually thankful for the shit I went through with all the lonely nights in my teens/early-adulthood and the bad acne I had for most of my life etc., because as much as that shit sucked, it helped me hit rock-bottom enough to find pickup and start this journey to being way more socially adept than I ever would've been if I had had an easier life.
"I actually noticed that when a set is going well for me…for example, the 5.5 in the first set — I ran into her several times and had good times — I tend to just say ‘who cares, I want to challenge myself’ and immediately start looking for hotter/better girls."
Dating (My Ex-Husband) After Divorce
Post-divorce life is turning out to be very interesting
To Avoid a Broken Heart, Do Not Love
My Last Days as Someone’s Wife
On Taking the Easy Way Out
When Your Soon-to-Be Ex Is Your Soul Mate
Scorched Earth
First Rule of a Positive Divorce
5 Things That Changed My Divorce
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. And Other Lies
The Last Divorce Writer Rides Again
May Divorce Be With You
Next Time You See Me, I’ll Be Laughing at Divorce
Even Though We're Divorcing, I Want You to Be Happy (And Other B.S. Tales)
Yup. :) Tyler likes to tell the story, and it gels with my own experience, that especially in the initial few years of learning this stuff, if people in your social circle don't see you for a couple months, when they run into you again they're often like "wow, you're so different" or "you've changed so much" and they mean it as a compliment.
Note, again, that you haven't grown 2 feet taller. Physically you're the same dude you were when you felt like you were the tag-along guy of the group and 5s were sneering at you on the dance floor…all you've done since then is stopped holding back your personality and embraced expressing yourself, and consciously learned how to express your personality in an optimal way. And you will improve a thousand times more than you have so far…you can't even imagine what you'll be like in a few years.
A few YEARS. I mean, ya, all the nights out where not much happens or you get shot down suck, but man, imagine, if you spend a couple years of your life doing this (and it's not even torture, a lot of the time it's just fun and having little adventures and gaining stories and experiences), you could spend the entire rest of your life on a path that a couple years ago you probably thought was just for "other guys". It's like working out. Sure you aren't going to lose 50lbs and gain a bunch of muscles from a week of working out…but if you plug away at the gym, hitting it consistently and making little tiny improvements…over a couple of years you can transform your body into something you never imagined possible as a fatty-fat.
This is just working your social muscles. :) I literally can't even relate to my old self, like the mindsets and outlooks I had and the vision I had for my life and future and potential and all that…it's like talking about some other person entirely. I'm actually thankful for the shit I went through with all the lonely nights in my teens/early-adulthood and the bad acne I had for most of my life etc., because as much as that shit sucked, it helped me hit rock-bottom enough to find pickup and start this journey to being way more socially adept than I ever would've been if I had had an easier life.
"I actually noticed that when a set is going well for me…for example, the 5.5 in the first set — I ran into her several times and had good times — I tend to just say ‘who cares, I want to challenge myself’ and immediately start looking for hotter/better girls."