Single Or Married: You Never Stop Growing
Is your Inner Relationship Coach keeping you single?
What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Find Your True Love?
Are You Ready For True Love Or Just Wanting It?
Do You Know Your Relationship Set-Point?
How to Change Your Dating Karma
Facing the Fear to Get to Love
Building Dating Confidence by Facing What You Fear
Why You Shouldn’t Trust Your Feelings In Relationships
Romancing Yourself To Love
ARE WE ALL JUST JADED HAGS? WHETHER TO GOOGLE YOUR DATE OR NOT
How Not To Get Beaten Up In a Club
Sounds more insulting to kinky people than 9 ½ Weeks.
Posted by Spike1382 on March 24, 2010 at 11:47 AM · Report
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Great review, thanks! I suspected this book would have that tone, after hearing the author interviewed on "Fresh Air" a few weeks ago.
Posted by REW on March 24, 2010 at 1:29 PM · Report
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Ms. Febos should neither be condemned for doing something that she doesn't necessarily enjoy nor sharing her story. I don't like my office job, even though I'm better at it than most people are passionate about my profession. I don't believe sex work is different.
Posted by DirtyLibertarian on March 24, 2010 at 9:35 PM · Report
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libraboy5
It's a book about a woman who hated herself so much she decided to get a job where she could take her self-hatred out on others. Glad you left the industry, you stupid bitch!
Posted by libraboy on March 25, 2010 at 7:43 AM · Report
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@5 My thoughts exactly. Ms. Febos can't really expect more of a positive reaction when she's written a kink-negative book.
Posted by discodolly on March 25, 2010 at 10:41 AM · Report
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Unregistered Comment on March 25, 2010 at 11:51 AM8
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Where does it say that MM will be interviewing Febos?
Posted by CleverScreenName on March 26, 2010 at 2:43 PM · Report
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@10 They are getting that from reading her blog. MM often publishes blog posts that dovetail with these columns. My hunch is it's a space issue given these articles are so short. http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com/2010…
They should just link to it, I don't know why they don't.
Posted by Larkshead on March 27, 2010 at 1:50 AM · Report
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Great article, but oi!-The random bolding in the latest articles is killing me. Is an editor doing this?
Posted by Bellimum on March 28, 2010 at 10:17 AM · Report
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Yeah, the random bolding is a Stranger thing, not something MM does. I never read the paper version so I don't know if they do it in print too. They should stop, it's weird and dumb.
Posted by Larkshead on March 28, 2010 at 7:06 PM · Report
Unregistered Comment on March 29, 2010 at 9:26 AM14
yelahneb15
@12 I enjoy pretending it's some sort of mystical code - like, if you combine all the bolded words over the course of a year, the result is a chapter from the Necronomicon.
Posted by yelahneb http://www.strangebutharmless.com on March 29, 2010 at 11:19 AM · Report
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To the reader who wrote:
"I'm a bit surprised she has consented to be interviewed by a negative reviewer (assuming she is aware of Mistress Matisse's opinion, which I suppose she is)."
You're wrong in assuming this. Febos had no idea of the negative review when she did the live interview. Her father, whom I interviewed for the Port Townsend newspaper, told me this after the fact. Pretty cheap tactic by MM if you ask me. Also I felt that MM came off as "I'm more dom than you are" in her review.
Posted by artsjournalist on March 31, 2010 at 4:25 PM · Report
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@17 This column was published last Wednesday. MM said the interview was on Saturday. Why didn't MF do her homework?
As for "I'm more dom than you" - if MF says she's not really into the dom/sub stuff for real, she just played on on TV, then she's not a dom at all, is she.
Posted by Larkshead on March 31, 2010 at 7:20 PM · Report
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I heard the interview with Terry Gross. I *love* Fresh Air, I love Terry Gross, worship her in fact, and even so I felt that her interview with Ms. Febos was one where she kept saying "EW" in her head and shaking her hands like a 5 year old playing with worms. Febos came across sounding intelligent, but definitely judgmental and pretty kink- and sex-negative.
I think this review by MM, given the tone of the interview on Fresh Air and the position taken in the book ("I was so damaged I did KINK for a living, I was disgusting but now I'm better") was fair and nicely done. This book probably was written as kind of a titillation for the bored vanilla audience and as such misrepresents much of what MM stands for. I could see Matisse taking a much more offended stance. The fact that she writes a fairly calm and intelligent piece is impressive. As good as Terry Gross *should* have been. I hope the interview with her is recorded and available to us online.
Is your Inner Relationship Coach keeping you single?
What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Find Your True Love?
Are You Ready For True Love Or Just Wanting It?
Do You Know Your Relationship Set-Point?
How to Change Your Dating Karma
Facing the Fear to Get to Love
Building Dating Confidence by Facing What You Fear
Why You Shouldn’t Trust Your Feelings In Relationships
Romancing Yourself To Love
ARE WE ALL JUST JADED HAGS? WHETHER TO GOOGLE YOUR DATE OR NOT
How Not To Get Beaten Up In a Club
Sounds more insulting to kinky people than 9 ½ Weeks.
Posted by Spike1382 on March 24, 2010 at 11:47 AM · Report
2
Great review, thanks! I suspected this book would have that tone, after hearing the author interviewed on "Fresh Air" a few weeks ago.
Posted by REW on March 24, 2010 at 1:29 PM · Report
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Ms. Febos should neither be condemned for doing something that she doesn't necessarily enjoy nor sharing her story. I don't like my office job, even though I'm better at it than most people are passionate about my profession. I don't believe sex work is different.
Posted by DirtyLibertarian on March 24, 2010 at 9:35 PM · Report
Unregistered Comment on March 25, 2010 at 7:23 AM4
libraboy5
It's a book about a woman who hated herself so much she decided to get a job where she could take her self-hatred out on others. Glad you left the industry, you stupid bitch!
Posted by libraboy on March 25, 2010 at 7:43 AM · Report
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@5 My thoughts exactly. Ms. Febos can't really expect more of a positive reaction when she's written a kink-negative book.
Posted by discodolly on March 25, 2010 at 10:41 AM · Report
Unregistered Comment on March 25, 2010 at 11:48 AM7
Unregistered Comment on March 25, 2010 at 11:51 AM8
Unregistered Comment on March 25, 2010 at 7:45 PM9
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Where does it say that MM will be interviewing Febos?
Posted by CleverScreenName on March 26, 2010 at 2:43 PM · Report
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@10 They are getting that from reading her blog. MM often publishes blog posts that dovetail with these columns. My hunch is it's a space issue given these articles are so short. http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com/2010…
They should just link to it, I don't know why they don't.
Posted by Larkshead on March 27, 2010 at 1:50 AM · Report
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Great article, but oi!-The random bolding in the latest articles is killing me. Is an editor doing this?
Posted by Bellimum on March 28, 2010 at 10:17 AM · Report
13
Yeah, the random bolding is a Stranger thing, not something MM does. I never read the paper version so I don't know if they do it in print too. They should stop, it's weird and dumb.
Posted by Larkshead on March 28, 2010 at 7:06 PM · Report
Unregistered Comment on March 29, 2010 at 9:26 AM14
yelahneb15
@12 I enjoy pretending it's some sort of mystical code - like, if you combine all the bolded words over the course of a year, the result is a chapter from the Necronomicon.
Posted by yelahneb http://www.strangebutharmless.com on March 29, 2010 at 11:19 AM · Report
Unregistered Comment on March 29, 2010 at 6:02 PM16
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To the reader who wrote:
"I'm a bit surprised she has consented to be interviewed by a negative reviewer (assuming she is aware of Mistress Matisse's opinion, which I suppose she is)."
You're wrong in assuming this. Febos had no idea of the negative review when she did the live interview. Her father, whom I interviewed for the Port Townsend newspaper, told me this after the fact. Pretty cheap tactic by MM if you ask me. Also I felt that MM came off as "I'm more dom than you are" in her review.
Posted by artsjournalist on March 31, 2010 at 4:25 PM · Report
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@17 This column was published last Wednesday. MM said the interview was on Saturday. Why didn't MF do her homework?
As for "I'm more dom than you" - if MF says she's not really into the dom/sub stuff for real, she just played on on TV, then she's not a dom at all, is she.
Posted by Larkshead on March 31, 2010 at 7:20 PM · Report
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I heard the interview with Terry Gross. I *love* Fresh Air, I love Terry Gross, worship her in fact, and even so I felt that her interview with Ms. Febos was one where she kept saying "EW" in her head and shaking her hands like a 5 year old playing with worms. Febos came across sounding intelligent, but definitely judgmental and pretty kink- and sex-negative.
I think this review by MM, given the tone of the interview on Fresh Air and the position taken in the book ("I was so damaged I did KINK for a living, I was disgusting but now I'm better") was fair and nicely done. This book probably was written as kind of a titillation for the bored vanilla audience and as such misrepresents much of what MM stands for. I could see Matisse taking a much more offended stance. The fact that she writes a fairly calm and intelligent piece is impressive. As good as Terry Gross *should* have been. I hope the interview with her is recorded and available to us online.